Go Digital Interactive Magazine 2-1/Go Digital - Interactive Magazine - Vol 02 - No 01.iso/pc/planitpb/pa05.pft

Text File | 1995-05-26 | 3KB | 43 lines

{\ft"Arial"\ft"Times New Roman"
\f1\fs16
\t I've been seeing a wonderful woman for three months now, and we've
become very involved emotionally. Our sex together couldn't be better, for I,
who have had literally hundreds of lovers, can remember none so prolific.
But for the first time in all the years, I have a deep feeling for this womanù
it's more than just a physical thing, and we've exchanged verbal expressions
of love.\p
\t After our third or fourth date, she made it apparent to me that she had had a
boyfriend for a year or so and wondered if it bothered me. At that point, it
didn't matter to me, for as the newcomer, I felt that I was cheating him, if
anything. What was meant to be a fling for her got out of hand, and our
relationship escalated rapidly. After a couple of months of intimacy, the
young lady broke it to me that she couldn't take the pressures of loving two
men. Since she had not let on to her boyfriend about our affair, though she
had been completely open with me, she chose the path of least resistance and
asked that we cool it for a while.\p
\t I care about her deeply and don't want to lose her. She claims the same
feelings for me in our less-frequent rendezvous. She has expressed a deep
love for me, an excitement for our lovemaking unrivaled by any prior
experience, but also a lack of interest in ending the other thing.\p
\t What demands, if any, may I make on her to make a decision, and how
soon? The line between having her and pushing so hard as to scare her back
to him is so fine, yet I can't handle the infrequency of our meetings and want
to take destiny into my own hands. Help me, for I fear that for the first time
in nearly 30 years, I may be in love.ùA.S., Chicago, Illinois.\p
\p\fs18\i
\t We wish we could be encouraging, but we suspect that you'll indefinitely,
if not always, be playing second banana in this situation. If this woman felt
the excitement for you that you feel for her, she would have little difficulty
breaking things off with her current boyfriend. It appears that you're in the
unenviable position of being the other manùand part of your appeal to this
woman is that you are forbidden fruit. Keep in mind, too, that you've known
each other only a little more than three months. She obviously feels more
comfortable with the man she has known longer. It may all boil down to how
patient you can beùand for how long. So, while we understand your strong
feelings for her, we suggest that you do cool it for a while to give the
appearance that you may be moving on to other things. If she really wants to
hold on to you, she'll find a way. You have nothing to gain, as you realize,
by trying to force the issue. Good luck.\p
\fs6  \p
\f0\fs12\n Artist:  Pater Sato}